Hi NYKempo,
So you are saying that you feel that training experiences (and mishaps such as that) inside the dojo can translate into knowledge for reality? Well if so I'd agree, and say that I'd figure that was the point of training, but I can say from experience that you'd be amazed how many people disagree with that basic concept 
I guess it depends on the style of martial arts you're training in. In Kajukenbo we train to fight in the street, in fact, it is the basis of the founding of our art. Sijo and the other co-founders wanted to be able to fight and protect themselves because of living in a dangerous area in Hawaii. Some one here probably knows the correct quote and I think it’s from Sijo and it goes something like "it's not a training if there's no blood left on the floor". Course, this was back in 1947, but a tradition carried on today in many schools-- not so much the blood but training for reality street-fighting. And, we are an art and therefore we also train in forms and techniques be they punch arts or grab arts, grappling, joint locks, pinyans and katas, etc.
Might I ask, with that kind of background and experience would you say you agree with the basic point of my comment? That moreso than anything else the key to not being involved in such an assault would be training in how to be aware of your surroundings and the knowledge on how to avoid certain circumstances that might put you at risk? Or is the number of people that experience such scenarios truly women getting abducted outside of supermarkets or in their homes, hence unavoidable? Obviously scenario-based self defense training is key to surviving or escaping such situations, but would you say that mental preparation should be the focus?
First of all, your statement suggests that these rapes could be avoided if these people had just been aware of their surroundings and thereby placing blame on the victim for basically living their lives. Having said that, all the self-defense classes I take and refer people too begin with being aware of your surroundings and of being at risk in certain settings. Many circumstances that these women were in were unavoidable. A young teen walking to school, a van stops, a man jumps out and she’s grabbed into an afternoon of hell; an older woman waiting at a bus stop and same thing happens. A police officer checking out a routine matter around a garbage dump slightly off the street and with a flashlight, and a gun, ends up being raped by two criminals he’s knows as they have a long rap sheet and he’s dealt with him before.
Lack of mental preparation is not the reason these people were assaulted. I don't think it's one or the other or even stepping stairs as in first you learn this, then this, and then that. To assume so is to be caught in linear thinking. It is balance, IMO. Practicing combat training or my preference being reality-based self-defense is inclusive of mental preparation and vice-a-versa. The example I used of women, men and children taking self-defense courses is that (1) it doesn't take as long as committed martial arts and (2) it is meant for protection in the street. Such training is inclusive of all that you mention in terms of awareness of one's surrounding and avoiding certain circumstance. As an added note, many folks who are sexually assaulted know their assailants-77% seems to be the stats at this time. So what we're looking at also is defending against someone you trust and/or love or is supposed to be someone you think you can trust. Nonetheless there are always stranger assaults. Either way, awareness of one's surroundings is paramount to one's safety. Yet, you can be aware and still be trapped and the next thing you know you're fighting for your life. But. If I had to make a choice I’d take physical self-defense over mental preparation.
Watching the video on CNN that Sigung Mark put up is an excellent example of this. The man who was a Marine explained how he was aware of his surroundings, that a car was following him and that he needed to get into a lit area so that the car following him, which he thought was the police, would be able to see him clearly. Having gotten into the light it was a bunch of young people who attacked him as well as carrying a lethal weapon. He had a pocket-knife. All that to say, he had the mental preparation and yet he still had to fight.
I live in a dangerous neighborhood although not so dangerous as some. I live in San Pablo, CA right on the border of Richmond, CA which last week or the week before had five shootings all in one day, 3 of which the victims ended up dead. I had to go out last night at 1:30 am as I’ve been out on disability and at the same time a report was due which is connected to our funding and had to be done in a short timeline. My parking lot is a magnet for a lot of folks because it’s a shortcut to the highway and also used by industry such as trucks with tar, cement, paint, grit and sandstone which all blow into our windows and makes for a pain in the neck mess. (I am moving as soon as I can visualize taking on another move from 2 years ago

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So I left my house with an escrima stick in full view so anybody who wants to think about engaging with me is forewarned. At the same time, I have a knife on my side that is not visible. Mental awareness of surroundings?—you bet. If something’s going to kick off that I can’t avoid than I’m armed with weapons of my choice. Ordinarily I wouldn’t be leaving at that time. I might come home at that time, but that’s a different story.
With respect,